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#FBRape, Part II: Facebook condones female-on-male sexual violence

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Menlo Park, Calif. — By now, you know that Facebook has a major problem with violent content, something that Everyday Sexism’s Laura Bates revealed in an exposé in 47 months ago.

Turns out, Mark Zuckerberg has learned absolutely nothing from the #FBRape campaign of 2013.

The latest example (out of many) of the Facebook’s irresponsible corporate culture comes via an Sydney-based Facebook group called Bad Girls Advice. Read the rest of this entry »

Woman who sent sexist text to boss terminated

Woman had intended to send text to daughter’s boyfriend

Today's News Briefs

SYDNEY, Australia — A woman who accidentally sent her boss a sexist text message intended for her daughter’s boyfriend has lost her case for getting her job back.

Louise Nesbitt had sent a text message containing the phrase “complete dick” and claimed the text was just a joke.

In the January 12 message, intended for the daughter’s boyfriend, Ms Nesbitt described her boss as a “complete dick”, adding, “we know this already so please try your best not to tell him that regardless of how you feel the need”.

She immediately realised her mistake, and frantically sent an apologetic follow-up text, saying: “Rob, please delete without reading. I am so so so sorry. Xxx.”

But, at that point, it was too late.

In another, she attributed the message to her sense of humour.

“That message came across so wrong. Rob … that is not how I feel. My sense of humour is to exaggerate.”

It is so far out of context … please forget it and just go on as normal.”

Fair Work Commissioner Danny Cloghan shot down Ms. Nesbitt’s claim that the text should have been considered in the context of the intended recipient.

To call a person a ‘dick’ is a derogatory term to describe an idiot or a fool. The word ‘complete’ is used to convey the message that the person is, without exception, an idiot or a fool – they are nothing less than a ‘dick’.”

In his written judgement, Commissioner Cloghan deemed the text to be deeply offensive and derogatory and “far from a light-hearted insult”.

This is a pro-tip to women who get mad at guys: keep sexist words like ‘dick’ to yourself, regardless of intent.

Sydney Morning Herald
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Woman who abused boyfriend in video arrested

Woman who abused boyfriend in video arrested

A woman who was caught on tape abusing her boyfriend while thousands of passers-by did absolutely nothing to stop her has been arrested.

Hong Kong cops busted her after the video garnered millions upon millions of hits worldwide.

She is only known as Cheng, and she is 20.  Cheng has been charged with assault.  Her boyfriend, 23, was treated for injuries and released.

This is proof that female-on-male domestic violence is not being treated seriously across the world.

[Ami Angelowicz, Huffington Post Crime]

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RAPE CULTURE OUT OF CONTROL: Toronto’s John Doe mercilessly victim-blamed by the metro area’s tweeters

TORONTO — I thought that the way that Stuebenville’s Jane Doe was treated around my birthday (March 18) was the lowest of the low in the North American rape culture.

Sadly, I was proven wrong.

The way that John Doe was treated, after his gang rape on Easter Sunday, was worse.  Far worse.

Women’s Post, a Canadian feminist blog, screenshot all of the tweets, even some reddit and Disqus comments, and compiled the most disgusting remarks about the John Doe.  You can look at the triggering remarks on there, last updated on April 24.

They revisited the issue on Wednesday.

What is surprising is the heteronormative gender binary approach to rape as a topic. Men rape, women are raped. There is very little discussion in between for men who are raped by men, women who are raped by women, and men who are raped by women, like the victim in Toronto.

The response I’ve heard is that because the number of rapes that is reported in these scenarios is lower that it isn’t worth the time. I can think of one young man whose experience and entire existence was deemed worthless by the internet who might disagree. This notion may also be a beast that feeds itself: if no attention is given to these matters because they are reported less, when it does occur victims might be less likely to report it because they have no concept of a precedent.

If we want to do right by victims like Toronto’s John Doe we need to break away from this male vs. female conversation. In schools, posters, and awareness campaigns we need to stop addressing men as aggressors and potential aggressors and women as victims or potential victims. Instead we need to think about it simply as rapists and victims outside of their genders.

You’ve heard a thousand times before that rape isn’t about sex (sexual intercourse in this sense) but instead about power. Power isn’t limited to one sex or gender. The idea that “we need to teach men not to rape” ignores scores of victims who don’t fit into that construct and encourages the mentality that men and boys can’t also be victims like what we saw happen in the aftermath of the Toronto gang rape victim.

My heart goes out to this poor soul in the hopes that someday in the future a man can come forward as a victim without being victimised continually through social media and the press for simply being the wrong gender to feel sorry for.

Until then we need to teach people that rape is a genderless crime.

Emphasis mine, in bold.

I was one of the first feminists to break away from the old-fashioned male v. female conversation – I was accused of a “what about the menz” remark, this was in late 2007.  So, I am at least 4.5 years ahead of most mainstream feminists here.

There was a pamphlet at South Carolina Aiken in 2003, and on one of the pages, it read this from a man: “It’s hard to be that I could be raped by a woman, but I was.”

It is hard to believe that in 2013, that this kind of victim-blaming to a male rape victim of a gang rape by four women can happen, too.  Sadly, it did and even sadder: most of those doing the victim-blaming were women.

We also need to teach women and girls NOT to rape men.  Period.

Man, 19, gang raped by four women over 30 in a Canadian Steubenville

TORONTO — The next Steubenville, Ohio is…in Canada’s largest city.

A 19 year old man was gang raped by four women in Toronto on Easter Sunday.  The four women have not been found as of yet.

The Huffington Post, hardly a feminist media outlet, has more.

Police say four women sexually assaulted a 19-year-old man after meeting him at a Toronto nightclub, the Toronto Globe and Mail reports.

On March 31, the suspects reportedly offered to drive the man home but instead took him to a parking lot where police say they attacked him, according to the news outlet. The women are described as being white, in their 30s, all about 5 feet 4 inches tall and about 200 pounds, according to several reports. They wore short black dresses with high heels.

Authorities did not reveal the specifics of the attack, and no arrests have been made. The victim did not come forward until April 5, the Toronto Sun reports.

Toronto Police Det.-Const. Shannon McParland praised the man for reporting the crime. Curtis St. John of the Male Survivor support network similarly told the Sun that the stigma of being attacked by females can shame a male victim into silence.

“Men grow up feeling they have to be in control of every situation,” he said.

Nicole Pietsch, coordinator of the Ontario Coalition of Rape Crisis Centres, told the National Post that while the idea of a man being sexually preyed on by women is sometimes considered “lucky,” it “just feeds into the myth that sexual violence is something the victim wants.”

As the Post notes, men made up 8 percent of the adult sex assault claims reported to police across Canada, according to a 2003 report Canadian Centre for Justice.

According to the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network, 2.78 million American men “have been victims of sexual assault or rape.”

Emphasis mine in bold.

First and foremost, the only major US feminist that posted about this story was Jessica Wakeman of the Frisky (her post is contained in the “on Easter Sunday” phrase).  That should be extremely alarming to men who want to become feminists and NOT in a good way.  I am totally disgusted by the big American feminist media blackout that occurred on this story. I’ve searched near and far to find who reported on this from our side.  And sadly, Ms. Wakeman – who, like myself, got very little sleep on Sunday night – was the only correct answer to that question.

Second, do anyone remember the phrase “My short skirt is not an invitation to rape me!”?.  Same thing applies here.  Women’s short skirts do not give them the right to rape men.  Not under ANY circumstances.

Third, we all know how bad the victim-blaming and slut-shaming is in cases of male-on-female sexual assault – Steubenville, Torrington, Conn.; and (less infamously) Cleveland, Texas brought that out in the open.  When the man is a victim of sexual assault by a woman, the victim-blaming and slut-shaming (yes, men can be slut-shamed) are already twenty times WORSE.  When a man is a victim of a gang rape by women, the victim-blaming and slut-shaming increase ten-thousandfold.  (Gang rape is defined as a victim being raped by three or more people.)  What that means is that if a man or boy is gang raped and ALL of the rapists are women and girls, he is ten thousand times more likely to be blamed for his own gang rape than vice-versa.

While only 1 out of every 33 men are victims of sexual assault, 58% of all male victims of sexual assault were born on 1/1/1978 or later, 90% of all male victims of sexual assault are mandated to join the Selective Service System (born on 1/1/1960 or later), and approximately 55% of male victims are sexually assaulted by a woman – while 42% of the remaining male victims are raped in prison (particularly those owned by the privateering-advocate group ALEC) by other men.

The victim-blaming and disgusting rape jokes are completely off the charts in this case.  Here are some disgusting pro-rape tweets and comments from Huffington Post.

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That is just a small sample of the vile comments and tweets to this story.  The Policy Mic also has more.  Let’s hope that justice is served in this case.

UPDATE @ 13:00: I’ve decided to add “US” and “American” to the post as many Canadian feminists, including Slutwalk, are speaking out against this gang rape.  Hope this clarifies the post.

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